14 Ways to become the happiest person on earth (PART 1)
There are just two
persons on earth; you and others. Your happiness and satisfaction is going to
be hugely dependent on how you relate, first, with yourself and then others.
I’ve consciously practiced the following tips over the years and I can
confidently recommend it as a happiness recipe for anyone. Here it is:
1. Become your own crush: unfortunately,
society would almost always offer us the opposite of what we expect. More
people will call you ugly when you think you are at your cutest. The good news
is that you don’t need peoples’ adulation to be who you are. As for me, I’m
witty, sagacious, cute, exposed, important and very importantly, I’m the ‘apple
of God’s eye’. If you think otherwise, that’s sincerely your own business.
Donald Trump is POTUS regardless of what you think. So wake up every morning,
look yourself in the mirror and say “wow, I am so damn cute” and then walkaway
caring less about what people think. It gives you the healthy self-esteem
needed to be the best of you.
2. Mind your business: A wise man once
said: “after smokers, the next set of
people who are liable to die young are people who don’t mind their business”.
Consciously learn how not to interfere especially when you don’t perceive any
imminent harm. Nobody appreciates intruders especially when dealing with
personal issues. That way, no accidental bottle will bruise your head.
3. Never try to impress everyone: trying
to impress everyone is not just impossible, it is a willful concession to
mental and emotional slavery. If your car doesn’t have an AC, people are going
to call it old, and if your car has one, people are going to complain you use
too much AC. Even God cannot impress everyone, if you doubt me, ask atheists or
agnostics. Reasonable people have a problem with you not being yourself and
always trying to impress them.
4. Respect peoples’ privacy: a man’s
privacy is his place of psychological and social security. They probably don’t
say it, but NOBODY is comfortable with people who don’t understand and respect their
privacy. You don’t have any business going through someone’s inbox or private
chats, searching their room, being unduly curious about their personal details etc.
especially without their consent. It is wrong on earth and in heaven and it is
not good for your relationships. Many breakups happened when one spouse
secretly read a chat. Give people space and be happy.
5. Understand that everyone is entitled to
their own opinion: some persons are usually amazed as to how I don’t get
perturbed about false rumours or how I’m not eager to prove my righteousness if
it comes into question. The reason is that I understand that your opinion about
me is your own personal idiosyncrasy and it does not validate my worth or
change the truth about me. You must understand that perception is very much
dependent on a person’s personality. For instance, people with inferiority
complex have a tendency of almost finding everyone proud, self-righteous people
tend to be judgmental, extreme feminists have a tendency to interpret innocent
masculine gestures as misogynist or chivalric etc. no amount of opinion will
change an ‘iPhone 7, to ‘Nokia 3310’. You don’t have a responsibility to suit
anybody’s opinion about you. You know who you are, worry less about what they
are saying and live aright like you have always done.
6. Spend time with people and work on
developing your relationship: believe me when I say that ‘The Bahamas’
would be hell if you were the only person there. Research consistently suggests
that good relationships provide the strongest basis for life satisfaction. Even
if you tend to be introverted, form a few close relationships and nurture them.
Make meaningful social interactions because they have a way of making your day.
If you find this helpful, please give me feedback. But above all, share and
help others.
Ezeme Kingsley Chukwuebuka
Kingynelsy@gmail.com
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