SINGLEHOOD (Single Ladies)
By Esther
Omoregbee (Nwanyibuife)
Singlehood
is often defined as a state of being unmarried. It also applies to the
condition of having no romantic partner at all. In this context, we will be
looking at the Ladies corner. The word lady is a term that applies to
womanhood.
Who is a WOMAN?
A
woman is a refined creature created from God's existing creature (Genesis 2:22-33).
She is
was not created as a result of emergency, she is part of God's original plan
from the beginning. She is an indispensable and special vessel filled with rich
greatness, enough to compliment a man's life and also to impact her generation.
She is a creature with soft spot capable of killing the venom of thousands of
men.
God
original purpose for the woman was to fill the gap, be a co-builder and an agent
of transformation in the garden (World). She was created with distinct features
and functions that even a man can't perform. She is indeed blessed.
However,
a woman must as part of nature go through different stages of life. The stages
begins with her as a child (Girl), she then becomes a lady (Single) and then
eventually becomes a woman. Among these stages, the stage of ‘singlehood’
requires the most critical and keen attention and that is simply because of the
huge amount of societal pressure they have to deal with. When her singleness is
not properly utilized, regret becomes inevitable. God forbid!
Singlehood
is a gift and not a curse. It's not a state of being lonely, rather, a state of
being alone; the biblical example of the first man would serve as a perfect
illustration of this. Adam was not lonely, he was simply alone. He was alone
because he was the only one of his kind in the garden (other animals had their
kinds available), but that didn’t stop him from making impact. Seeing this, God
in his infinite wisdom decided that Adam shouldn't be the only one of his Kind
on earth, hence, the creation of WOMAN to complement and help him fulfill his
purpose.
It is
worthy to note that though single, he was a completely fulfilled and happy
person. The absence of a woman didn’t stop him from working and self-actualizing.
Similarly, before a single lady desires
for the next step (Marriage), she must first ensure that she is completely
fulfilled and happy as a single. Dear lady, you have to first actualize your
sense of self-worth, instill in yourself good morals and answer the question of
why you are on earth (purpose), then you are prepared for the next stage. God preserved
this stage as the final stage to enable humans develop themselves
spiritually, physically, intellectually, and morally, in order not to
become a liability when we finally decide to enter the next stage
(Relationship).
Singlehood
is another opportunity to render services to God and humanity with absolute
devotion. It's a stage of purpose discovery, personal development, character building
and achievement of self-worth, and not a stage where you are crazed about
getting into a relationship.
Many
ladies today feel inferior or wallow in self-pity because Mr. Right hasn't come
yet. But have you bothered to ask yourself what will be your contribution to
the relationship or marriage assuming Mr. right shows up, Would you be independent
or dependent? How can you compliment him? Take note, Eve was made to compliment
Adam and not to destroy him. If you are able to answer these questions then
your Singlehood has been worthwhile. Singlehood is sweet when you are adding
value to yourself and spouse.
Prepare
yourself to add value and not to extract. Don't feel dejected if it's not
working out the way you want it. Every Single woman is a work in progress. All
you need do now is to get busy; explore meaningful opportunities, read books,
learn skills, be domesticated, engage in spiritual exercises, do the mental
push up, and don't forget to develop good values for yourself.
Be a
combination of Beauty and Brain. Don't be like the foolish virgins.
Finally,
a single Lady is one who is complete physically, emotionally, spiritually, and
intellectually without dependence upon anyone. She can thrive and prosper with
or without a relationship. She is able to realize her identity and happiness in
Christ.
Singlehood
is not a time to abandon God. This is the conclusion of the whole matter, fear
God and keep his commandments; be useful to God and society. That's how you 'rock your singlehood'.
#ILoveWomanhood
#NwanyiBuife
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